| Are you tired of the whole dating scene? Have | | | | begin to go through all their listings. Be |
| you spent many hours (years) going to parties | | | | open to hearing/reading about everything that |
| and events with the hope of meeting | | | | is available. This process can give you a lot |
| compatible and available singles? If so, now | | | | of ideas and will let you know what all your |
| may be time to think about doing something | | | | choices are. The list can be almost |
| different. Really different.After all, we | | | | overwhelming! Many singles are searching for |
| tend to move about socially in the same | | | | new adventures and this has led to an |
| close-knit circles. The same guys/women at a | | | | explosion of activities and events being |
| friend's party or at the functions held by | | | | offered.The following is a "rough" list of |
| our church or synagogue. Even the happy hour | | | | what you may find: |
| crowd can become all too familiar. Don't | | | | |
| despair. There are lots of new and exciting | | | | Sports - volleyball, basketball, tennis, |
| ways to meet people if you are willing to do | | | | golf, sailing, horseback riding, and sports |
| a little local research and are game for some | | | | leagues for a number of team sports |
| new adventures.Before I get into the | | | | |
| specifics, I need to emphasize the importance | | | | Athletic - hiking, biking, canoeing, |
| of having a basic plan. Primarily this | | | | kayaking, white water rafting, camping, |
| involves a budget for time and money | | | | walking groups |
| investment. It also requires that you really | | | | |
| think about what would meet YOUR needs, as | | | | New Skill Learning - pistol-shooting classes |
| you get ready to commit to some new leisure | | | | |
| activities and interests.A good way to start | | | | Cultural - museum tours, theatre, ballet, |
| is to spend a little time thinking about | | | | symphony, opera |
| those things you always wanted to try or to | | | | |
| learn about. For instance, have you had a | | | | Social - scavenger hunts, wine tasting at |
| desire to try hiking, biking, swimming or | | | | vineyards, group dinners |
| other athletic pursuits? What about something | | | | |
| a little more exotic like caving, skydiving | | | | After you have made your picks, check to see |
| or scuba? Perhaps cultural pursuits are more | | | | that you can work them into your schedule and |
| to your liking, but you don't know anyone you | | | | budget. Remember, as you make your final |
| can share these with. If so, you may feel | | | | selection(s), that this is supposed to be FUN |
| uncomfortable or just not interested in going | | | | for you. Choose something that you believe |
| out and doing them alone.With some ideas in | | | | you would enjoy and that would be basically |
| mind, (or maybe no specific list), you are | | | | within your ability to participate in. (i.e.) |
| ready to begin to gather information about | | | | If you are terrified of heights, avoid |
| local available resources.Major metropolitan | | | | skydiving.Keep in mind that challenging |
| areas are rich in singles events. These are | | | | athletic pursuits tend to bring out the |
| hosted by for profit companies as well as | | | | (true) best and worst sides of us all. Not |
| singles groups/clubs that are affiliated with | | | | only will you give yourself an experience |
| religious and other private organizations. | | | | that can help you develop greater confidence |
| You can begin your search by looking through | | | | and self-esteem, you will also learn more |
| local newspapers and checking out the | | | | about yourself and how you relate to others. |
| listings with you county, city or community | | | | This will be true of the other participants |
| center. A web search is also a great way to | | | | as well. Therefore, you will get a much more |
| gather information. Just use keywords that | | | | candid snapshot of the singles you meet |
| include singles, activities, events, and the | | | | during these activities/events. You will also |
| name of your local metropolitan area. If you | | | | maximize your opportunity to meet like-minded |
| live in an outer, less populated area, don't | | | | singles, who share at least one of your |
| give up. Look into what is available in the | | | | interests.So, pull some of those old dreams |
| nearest large city. Also, note the trips for | | | | or recent fantasies out of mothballs. Let |
| singles that allow you to meet people from | | | | yourself play. Along the way you just may |
| around the country.Once you have identified | | | | find a new favorite passion, a great friend |
| regional and local groups and organizations, | | | | or new love. |