| Are you tired of the whole dating scene? Have you | | | | people from around the country.Once you have |
| spent many hours (years) going to parties and | | | | identified regional and local groups and organizations, |
| events with the hope of meeting compatible and | | | | begin to go through all their listings. Be open to |
| available singles? If so, now may be time to think | | | | hearing/reading about everything that is available. This |
| about doing something different. Really | | | | process can give you a lot of ideas and will let you |
| different.After all, we tend to move about socially in | | | | know what all your choices are. The list can be |
| the same close-knit circles. The same guys/women | | | | almost overwhelming! Many singles are searching for |
| at a friend's party or at the functions held by our | | | | new adventures and this has led to an explosion of |
| church or synagogue. Even the happy hour crowd | | | | activities and events being offered.The following is a |
| can become all too familiar. Don't despair. There are | | | | "rough" list of what you may find: |
| lots of new and exciting ways to meet people if you | | | | Sports - volleyball, basketball, tennis, golf, sailing, |
| are willing to do a little local research and are game | | | | horseback riding, and sports leagues for a number of |
| for some new adventures.Before I get into the | | | | team sports |
| specifics, I need to emphasize the importance of | | | | Athletic - hiking, biking, canoeing, kayaking, white |
| having a basic plan. Primarily this involves a budget for | | | | water rafting, camping, walking groups |
| time and money investment. It also requires that you | | | | New Skill Learning - pistol-shooting classes |
| really think about what would meet YOUR needs, as | | | | Cultural - museum tours, theatre, ballet, symphony, |
| you get ready to commit to some new leisure | | | | opera |
| activities and interests.A good way to start is to | | | | Social - scavenger hunts, wine tasting at vineyards, |
| spend a little time thinking about those things you | | | | group dinners |
| always wanted to try or to learn about. For instance, | | | | After you have made your picks, check to see that |
| have you had a desire to try hiking, biking, swimming | | | | you can work them into your schedule and budget. |
| or other athletic pursuits? What about something a | | | | Remember, as you make your final selection(s), that |
| little more exotic like caving, skydiving or scuba? | | | | this is supposed to be FUN for you. Choose |
| Perhaps cultural pursuits are more to your liking, but | | | | something that you believe you would enjoy and |
| you don't know anyone you can share these with. If | | | | that would be basically within your ability to |
| so, you may feel uncomfortable or just not | | | | participate in. (i.e.) If you are terrified of heights, |
| interested in going out and doing them alone.With | | | | avoid skydiving.Keep in mind that challenging athletic |
| some ideas in mind, (or maybe no specific list), you | | | | pursuits tend to bring out the (true) best and worst |
| are ready to begin to gather information about local | | | | sides of us all. Not only will you give yourself an |
| available resources.Major metropolitan areas are rich in | | | | experience that can help you develop greater |
| singles events. These are hosted by for profit | | | | confidence and self-esteem, you will also learn more |
| companies as well as singles groups/clubs that are | | | | about yourself and how you relate to others. This will |
| affiliated with religious and other private organizations. | | | | be true of the other participants as well. Therefore, |
| You can begin your search by looking through local | | | | you will get a much more candid snapshot of the |
| newspapers and checking out the listings with you | | | | singles you meet during these activities/events. You |
| county, city or community center. A web search is | | | | will also maximize your opportunity to meet |
| also a great way to gather information. Just use | | | | like-minded singles, who share at least one of your |
| keywords that include singles, activities, events, and | | | | interests.So, pull some of those old dreams or recent |
| the name of your local metropolitan area. If you live | | | | fantasies out of mothballs. Let yourself play. Along |
| in an outer, less populated area, don't give up. Look | | | | the way you just may find a new favorite passion, a |
| into what is available in the nearest large city. Also, | | | | great friend or new love. |
| note the trips for singles that allow you to meet | | | | |